Are first times over-rated? They are memorable for sure...but only for the reason of being a first?
We romanticize our firsts- first kiss, first dance, first boyfriend, first day at school, first day at work, first marriage anniversary...was there anything special about them besides that fact they just happen to be the first of many?
For me what is more important is that something will be the first of many, rather than the first itself. First of many kisses, first of many dances, first of many anniversaries...the possibility of the upcoming ones is more romantic and real than merely this first.
I once read that there are ‘Past people’ and ‘Future people’. ‘Past people’ are the nostalgic lot who believe the past can never match up to the future. And the ‘Future people’ are the forward looking ones who believe that the future’s got to be better than the past.
I am not so sure that these can be the only two categories. Walking down the memory lane is one of my favourite past times and dreaming about the future is also what I enjoy doing. So where do I fit in? People claim that we should learn from past mistakes so we don’t repeat them in the future.
I say do that, but don’t ignore the beautiful experiences from the past and get inspired by them. Draw on them as your muse for a promising future.
Cherished memories from the past are the core for creating new beautiful ones in the future.
So look back at all your first times but don’t dwell on them. They are just the first of many more to come.